My personal take on military families
Hello Military Community,
In closing the month of April and month of the military child; I felt it was important to say what it means to me to be a wife of a service member and mother of a military child. I cannot express how proud I am of our daughter for her support, understanding and dedication to her father and our family. Cheyenne did not choose to be a military child but she has shown a patriotism and a depth of understanding that most adults never achieve.
The strength that military children repeatedly show amazes me and keeps me grounded. Military children have dealt with a decade of war and multiple deployments (Cheyenne has been through two and this spring will be her third) along with all the worry and fear that they bring. But I believe these challenges also have equipped our children with resilience that helps to prepare them for life’s setbacks and hardships.
As with all military children, Cheyenne did not ask to be a military child. Steve signed up to be a service member, but as a military child she also must deal with deployments, frequent moves and school transitions (and other school issues). But Cheyenne, along with other military children, do this with courage, grace and usually without teachers knowing they are military children (as is often the case with Army and Air National Guard children).
Every year I sit with the principal, counselors and teachers to point out Cheyenne is a military child and I ask them to contact me if they see anything “out of the ordinary,” whether it’s inward or outward, so I can address it and/or we can work together as a team to make sure she stays on track. Most years I get great feedback and willingness from the teachers and staff. I hope the staff next year continues this tradition.
As our family faces Steve leaving, I can see the strain of it reflected on her face when she talks to me about her Dad leaving or missing an upcoming event. Things like the first time she drives alone, the start of her first job (she just got hired), first prom, her full senior year and graduation, and her 18th birthday. Along with other first’s and little things that happen throughout a year that seem silly and simple at the time but when someone you love is missing it … it is heartbreaking.
Military children understand the necessity of “postponing” holiday’s and special events and do it with a grace and sincerity that humbles me every day. Our military children understand the importance, fun and the meaning of being a family together to share holidays, birthdays etc. Because in the great scene of life does it really matter what day you share?
I think it’s that you get to share that is important and military children realize this. Yes, Cheyenne is upset that her dad is missing these events but we are celebrating her 17th birthday before her dad leaves and will delay her graduation party for when he comes home. And as his wife I will make sure the other holidays and events have a special twist to make it special for Cheyenne and her dad.
Thank you to all the military children for your devotion, dedication, hard work and understanding. You are truly what make a military home a happy home.
Blessings from my family to yours,
If you have any questions or concerns or would like to share a story or situation, contact me at Kim@MilitaryResourceBooks.com and visit my website for updated information and other resources not listed in my book.